Friendly, warm consolation for teenagers “Learning how to look after myself when I feel hatred toward myself”
- Book Intro
In today’s fiercely competitive society, teenagers have the same amount of stress and tension as well as fear for the future that adults have. While they struggle to grow at least an inch physically and mentally, they often criticize themselves rather than being positive about themselves. They judge themselves and are hard on themselves for not doing well in school, for being timid, and for not having a good-looking face and a good body.
However, why do we undermine ourselves and why are we hard on ourselves, when we console a friend if that friend agonizes over the same problems? I Look After Myself gives tips on how to become your own best friend. The author introduces abundant recent study cases in addition to the author’s own experiences to facilitate teenagers’ understanding. In addition, each chapter has a “Let’s Think” section that helps readers think about each chapter subject, apply their own specific situation, and practice what to do.
This is the era of urging self-esteem therapy. Raising self-esteem is recommended as a cure to solve all psychological problems. However, it is an impossible mission to achieve if you don’t truly love yourself. If you have low self-respect, you may blame yourself for not having high self-esteem and be caught in a vicious cycle of self-criticism. Adolescence is a period when teenagers go through physical and mental changes and establish their ego. Adolescents are sensitive to the opinions of their peers, and their opinions of themselves are greatly affected by those who surround them, such as friends and family members. This is why teenagers need to practice loving and looking after themselves. When you cannot affirm and believe in yourself, and there is no one who comforts and soothes you, you need to tell yourself to be generous and kind to yourself. If you learn how to be kind to yourself, you can meet a new ‘you’ who is relaxed and comfortable. Talking about mindfulness through self-compassion, this book will give heart-warming consolation to teenagers who are going through bitter changes as they mature and to children who are currently taking a small breath and are growing in solitude.
- About the Author
(Vietnamese) Theo học chuyên ngành tâm lý học tại trường đại học và nhận bằng thạc sĩ về tâm lý học xã hội và nhân cách cho các nghiên cứu thực nghiệm với nội dung "tính xã hội và thể chất". Cho ra mắt các tác phẩm "Tôi là một người tốt ý như bây giờ", "Dành cho tôi người không yêu chính mình"Xin chăm sóc trái tim tôi". Đăng nhiều bài chuyên mục tâm lý học trên 'Khoa học Dong A". Hiện nay là nhà nghiên cứu trực thuộc Chương trình y học tổng hợp tại trường Y khoa Chapel Hill của Đại học Bắc Carolina.
(English) Park Jinyoung has an MA in Sociology and Personality Psychology. At present, she is conducting research on self-compassion in the U.S. She hopes to apply psychological research to real life in order to help people. She has written a book on self-respect and human relations based on the latest psychological research titled, Take Care of My Heart, Please. Other books by Park include To Me Who Doesn't Love Me; Self-conscious Me, Delusional You and One-Week Psychology. She currently writes columns for Science Donga.
(Indonesian) Penulis merupakan lulusan s1 ilmu psikolgi dan mendapatkan gelar s2 psikologi kepribadian dan masyarakat dengan penelitian tentang kekuatan fisik dan kemampuan sosial". Ia telah menulis "I'm fine as I am now", "Aku yang tidak mencintai diriku" "Tolonglah perasaanku". Ia juga aktif menulis di kolom psikologi di majalah "Donga Science". Selain sebagai penulis, Ia bekerja sebagai peneliti afiliasi program kedokteran terpadu (UNC Chapehill) di North Carolina University, Amerika Serikat.
(English) Park Jin-young is a social psychologist. Park likes to share research that is useful and helpful to people in clear and easy words and hopes to continue doing so. Park earned a master’s degree in social and personality psychology at Yonsei University. Currently, Park works as a researcher for the integrative medicine program at the University of North Carolina, Chapel Hill. Park studies ways to look after oneself and not to lose oneself while living with others (self-love, mindfulness, modesty) and wants to learn from great psychology studies and let others learn from them. Park has a blog titled “Ji-nyong-nyong’s social psychology blog” (jinpark.egloos.com) that reports results of scientifically studied psychology research. Park also manages a Twitter account that shares Ji-nyong-nyong’s news on social psychology (@imaum0217_). Park’s works include I Mind about You, You Mistake Me; A Week of Psychology; and To Me, Who Doesn’t Love Myself. Park has published serial columns in Young Doctor Shinmun and has also published psychology articles in Science Dong-A for the past five years.
2020 Recommended Book by the Gwangju City Main Library
2020 Recommended Book by the Gyeonggi Central Library of Education
2020 Recommended Book by the National Library for Children and Young Adults
- Bestseller Rank
Ranked in the top 20 in the young adult category for two weeks on Yes24 in 2021