This is a collection of interviews conducted with 10 young Millennial couples who entered the 2nd year of their marriage, had doubts about the established marriage culture of Korean society, and continue to live their own lifestyles.
- Book Intro
Korea is a society that expects people to live up to social norms, and "marriage" is at the pinnacle of such lifestyle. There is a long list of empty formalities under the name of manners and tradition that people have to prepare even before marriage itself. Even if one successfully marries, the situation becomes worse. A wide range of rules and duties that date back centuries are mandatory. From the moment someone gets married, their individuality no longer treated as an important aspect of their life. Due to the doubts about this, the author and her spouse did not hold a wedding ceremony, which is a typical thing for a couple to have. They went on a 42-day pilgrimage in Santiago, Spain, instead of holding a wedding ceremony, even published books and made TV appearances about it, but the principles and duties demanded of them were just the same. People asked the extremely sensitive question, "When are you going to have kids?", and demanded they "take care of each other's parents because you are now married." Fed up by these demands, on their 2nd year of marriage, the couple began to meet and talk to other young couples.
They met with a total of 10 couples, all of them millennials who had "reasons of their own" to rebel against the traditional expectations. This book introduces the conversations the author had with these couples in terms of themes. The book introduces a couple who held a fun and creative wedding when their parents opposed their marriage, a couple studying feminism together in order to change the patriarchal household culture embedded deep in Korea, a couple who developed a "code of conduct for equal child-raising" to ensure the two were equally engaging in child-raising and housekeeping, and a couple seeking to avoid unconditional sacrifice or dedication and finding a way to equally share financial control. By presenting the endeavors of millennial couples to overcome problems arising in the transition period Korea is in, this book highlights the hope of living "like oneself" in a marriage that escapes from the conventional definition made by older generations.
- About the Author
Lee Hyemin (F), who wrote the book and conducted the interviews, used to work as a magazine editor and as a planner and editor at a graphic design company. She is currently the president and content director of 900KM and the editor of the 1-person living magazine, Directory. She wrote an essay collection, The Longest Wedding March in Camino, an interview collection, Millennial Generation Lifestyle: Marriage, and a workbook, 128 Question Notes About Marriage.
Gyeonggi Content Agency, 2018, Gyeonggi-do Book of the Year